Cool BT

Cool secular guy becomes a religious Jew. Tales of the journey from past to present.

Thursday, August 04, 2005

The Night Life

"I'm not driving."
"I'm definitely not driving."
"Whos going to drive?"
"Lets get Jake to drive he isn't going to drink tonight."
"What time are we meeting at your place?"
"ok ... see you soon."

I quickly shower, dry off and head to my closet. Looking through the options I find something cool to wear. I take a few minutes to gell my hair, cut my nails and spray some cologne on.

The boys arrive by 9:45p.m. and we roll to the party. The place is packed, the music is loud and everyone is dressed to impress.

Looking back, I realize there is no difference between what goes down on the discovery channel and what goes down at these "social gatherings." The women have dressed or not dressed themselves like well packaged advertisements. As we know, the better the wrapping the more chance it will sell. They essentially are playing the roll of the "prey." The hunters (guys) are all over the place scanning the room to see what looks good. If a pretty women walks buy their head snaps in her direction much like a monkeys head does when he sees a female.

This is the type of situation that occurs when people think with their hormones. They essentially are running on animal drives. In reality what people are looking for is someone to connect to. So what is wrong with this approach to relationships? After all, people are just looking to have a good time and hopefully meet a suitable mate.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention lists over 25 major sexually transmitted diseases. Many of these have no cure. Approximately 25 percent of Americans are infected with a viral (non-curable) sexually transmitted disease. Some of the diseases can be caught merely by kissing and if you get a little more serious you could catch a deadly one.

Then there is the whole other side of emotional scaring. For those of you who have played with fire and been burned you know what I am talking about. Once we are hurt by someone we are hesitant to open up to the next person. If you kept stubbing your toe walking a certain way eventually you stop walking that way. I used to have a lot of friends that were girls. I can not emphasize enough how many were really hurt by "him." Guys are tough but fall just the same. Tears and sleepless nights are no fun especially when they are avoidable.

So what started out as "looking for a good time" can end up physically and emotionaly harming us. Dating for marriage avoids all of these problems. Sure you can get hurt but it fails in comparison to a breakup after physical intimacy. Not only that but you go into the situation thinking rationally, not like an ape. This enables us to make wise decisions. Who we are going to spend the rest of our lives with is probably one of the biggest decisions we make. Why not invest wisely?


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